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On the list of stressful life events, weddings are way up there. Such is the anxiety wrapped up in organising the big day, some brides and grooms-to-be can lose perspective and alienate their friends and family with their self-absorbed requests.<\/p>\n
One such bride caused a stir on social media, after one of her bridesmaids drew attention to the bizarre demands she was making of those closest to her.<\/p>\n
Posting anonymously on Reddit on September 18, the bridesmaid, 25, explained that her friend Zoe, 26, was getting married to a 30-year-old man in December 2024.<\/p>\n
Zoe assembled her party of bridesmaids to discuss her plans for \u201chair, makeup, [and] dresses\u201d, which the disgruntled bridesmaid said at first \u201cseemed reasonable\u201d.<\/p>\n
Explaining the theme of the wedding, the bridesmaid said: \u201cShe\u2019s going for a winter wonderland type of theme, so blue dresses (all in different shades, lined up as a gradient) with silvery accents, snowflake jewelry and soft makeup, even blue contacts for those of us without blue eyes.\u201d<\/p>\n
READ MORE <\/strong> Met Office issues urgent 14-hour flood warning with travel chaos expected<\/strong><\/p>\n The 25-year-old noted that it was unusual for a bride to ask her bridesmaids to wear contact lenses for a wedding, but that she was happy to oblige: \u201c… it\u2019s no big deal to me, I\u2019ve worn color contacts for Halloween.\u201d<\/p>\n However, the bride\u2019s list of requests did not end there.<\/p>\n Besides discussions about the bridesmaids\u2019 outfits, jewellery, make-up and contact lenses, the demanding bride also had very specific requirements about her posse\u2019s hair.<\/p>\n The bridesmaid explained: \u201cThe bit that ended up being an issue for me is that Zoe requested we all get our hair dyed. A couple members of the bridal group are natural blondes (with dyed ends), and so is Zoe (but she wants to go platinum for the wedding), but the rest of us are two brunettes, a strawberry blonde (she wasn\u2019t \u201cblond enough\u201d?), and a redhead.\u201d<\/p>\n She continued: \u201cI\u2019m one of the brunettes and I\u2019m the only one in the group who has never dyed or bleached their hair. I\u2019ve considered it, but I can never stay settled on what I want to do, and I\u2019d hate to spend money on something that I end up hating.<\/p>\n \u201cOn top of that, my mom spent from ages 5-13 flat ironing my hair almost every single day. It really damaged my hair. I\u2019m almost certain it\u2019s resulted in my hair being thinner than it used to be. I know bleaching can also damage your hair, and I don\u2019t feel comfortable taking that risk yet.\u201d<\/p>\n The dye-shy bridesmaid explained to Zoe that she would not altering her hair colour, but the bride-to-be put up a fight.<\/p>\n \u201cI told Zoe I wouldn\u2019t be able to dye my hair. She insisted it would be fine, as my hair seemed quite healthy and she would be paying for the bleaching treatments for all of us. I again said no, thanks so much, but I can\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n The anxious Reddit user told her friend that she\u2019d be willing to wear a wig, but that damaging her hair was not something she was willing to do: \u201cI asked if I could just wear a wig and she said no, that wigs are cheap and unnatural, and she wants us to have our real hair bleached instead of some cheap imitation for the day.<\/p>\n \u201cAfter more back and forth, she told me I should go home and think about the fact that I\u2019m ruining her vision and that I\u2019d be ruining the photos and wedding video that she and her fianc\u00e9 (30 M) will be putting together for his grandparents (84 M & 82 F) to view, since they won\u2019t be able to fly in from Argentina.<\/p>\n \u201cI apologized, paid for my meal, and left.\u201d<\/p>\n We use your sign-up to provide content in ways you’ve consented to and to improve our understanding of you. This may include adverts from us and 3rd parties based on our understanding. You can unsubscribe at any time. More info<\/p>\n Don’t miss… <\/strong> The 25-year-old asked Reddit users to whether or not she was in the wrong, on the sub-Reddit \u201cAm I The A**hole\u201d.<\/p>\n She asked: \u201cI really don\u2019t want to dye my hair, but I also don\u2019t want to ruin Zoe\u2019s picture perfect day. I don\u2019t think I\u2019m being difficult or wrong here, but am I?\u201d<\/p>\n The post was lit up with comments, as more than two thousand people had their say on the matter. Their verdict was damning.<\/p>\n One user backed the worried bridesmaid, telling her that they would have raised concerns about the bride’s demands far earlier.<\/p>\n They said: \u201cI would\u2019ve backed out on the demand to wear contacts. Trying to force others to bleach hair for a wedding? Absurd. Just back out now, it\u2019s not worth being part of this crazy Elsa themed wedding. She\u2019s only going to get worse. Run.\u201d<\/p>\n Another came to the defence of the 25-year-old poster, saying: \u201cThey make very realistic lace fronts these days. Bleaching your hair is extreme and very bad for your hair, I would bow out of the wedding altogether if I couldn\u2019t wear a wig. you\u2019re NTA here\u201d.<\/p>\n More comments in favour of the bridesmaid flooded in: \u201cMaking someone with a darker complexion, with dark hair and dark eyes, into a blue-eyed blonde is going to look really unnatural.<\/p>\n \u201cA wedding is not just a “perfect day” for the couple getting married. It’s also a social event, where the couple are the hosts, and the guests are, well, guests, and need to be welcomed and comfortable.<\/p>\n \u201cIt’s clear that your “friend” doesn’t want you, a dark-eyed dark-haired person, in her wedding. She wants cookie-cutter Barbie dolls. She can line up some blue eyed blonde blow-up dolls to get a wedding party that looks identical, or she can welcome her friends to her bridal party as the diverse group of people that they are.\u201d<\/p>\n![](\"https:\/\/cdn.images.express.co.uk\/img\/dynamic\/78\/590x\/secondary\/4966960.jpg?r=1695135896035\")
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